Lilith’s Lessons of Lust By Michael R. Herkes

When it comes to magic and witchcraft, there is often a large emphasis put on love spells. This is even more abundant now as we enter the time of year where red hearts and chubby babies with arrows take over department stores in anticipation of Valentine’s Day. Rather than focusing on the typical labyrinth of love in the coming weeks, there is another four letter “L” word one can focus on—lust! And when it comes to lessons of lust, there is no better energy to draw upon than that of the magnificent dark goddess of passion and temptation. So without further ado, welcome Lilith!

Who is Lilith?

Most know Lilith in her role as the first wife of Adam. The myth goes that before Eve, Lilith was the original feminine inhabitant of Eden who was made of earth just like Adam. Yet, Adam saw himself as superior to Lilith in his male role, especially when it came to their sex sessions. Unwilling to be subordinate and lay below to her equal, Lilith evaded Eden and flew to a cave by the Red Sea. It was there that she would frolic and have hot, lustful sex with the other outcasts.

However, prior to this Lilith originated as a wind spirit and handmaiden to the Babylonian goddess Ishtar from 2,000-3,000 BCE. From the beginning, she has been linked to sexuality and the ferocious power of femininity. In her role as handmaiden, Lilith was responsible for luring men to the sacred sexual temples of the goddess. Ultimately, she was outcast by the patriarchy and demoted to a “demon” amongst those who feared feminine power and sexuality. She was also identified as a child killing night hag in many traditions over the centuries as a result of this. But perhaps one of the reasons for this is that Lilith bathes in the ecstatic bliss of sex for purely pleasurable reasons rather than for creating new life—as many of us do today, too! Therefore she is a potent source of inspiration when it comes to areas of sexual pleasure.

Why work with Lilith?

In modern times, Lilith has reclaimed her place amongst occult practices as a powerful dark goddess. Dark in reference to her taboo nature and the aspects that society tends to shun. Lust aside, Lilith offers a sense of personal empowerment for many in and out of the magical community, especially when it comes to independence, equality, and personal power. She can also assist in welcoming unapologetic authenticity to our individual identities.

How to Work with Lilith

Lilith’s metaphysical makeup is extensive, however in the coming weeks her energies can be best utilized through her carnal lessons in lust and individuality. Here are some tips to invite her most powerful energies into your magical practices:

1.) Erect a shrine to Lilith.

A simple shrine to her can be made using several of her sacred items. Some of these include geode crystals (symbolic to her post-Eden cave), mirrors (Lilith is known for possessing mirrors and instilling vanity in onlookers), images of owls and snakes (her sacred animals), red/pink/black candles, and offerings of roses and lilies. For an extra oomph of eroticism, create it on your nightstand!

2.) Indulge in rituals of self-pleasure.

Before bed, give yourself the gift of pleasure with some solo-sex magic. Masturbation is a powerful act of self-care and helps to promote healthy expressions of sexuality! Furthermore, dedicating your orgasms (solo or otherwise) to Lilith is an ultimate act of her worship and an offering she will readily take!

3.) Make a sensual oil blend.

Oils are a great use of aromatic spellcasting! These can be used to dressing your magical items and further align them with your lusty intent. Alternatively, you may also wear it as an aural aroma to attract potential mates. Below is a recipe that mixes four oils known for their sensual strengths.

¼ Cinnamon oil
¼ Musk oil
¼ Patchouli oil
¼ Rose oil

4.) Burn red candles in the bedroom.

Red is the color of lust and sexuality. Burning red candles in the bedroom, especially when anointed with the lusty oil from above, helps ignite passion within the room. Carve Lilith’s name into the wax and seal it with your saliva or other personal effects to align your energies with hers.

5.) Embrace independence and establish equality.

Lilith is the poster girl for independence and equality. If you are single this Valentine’s Day and find yourself in a lull because of it, Lilith can be called upon to instill independence and self-love. Likewise, she can be called upon by those within relationships to cultivate personal identity and even establish equality between partners.

6.) Be authentic and unapologetically you!

This is a big one! Lilith takes full responsibility for who she is and never accepts anything less than that. It is important to remain empowered with what makes you the best version of yourself – and 99% of the time that means wholly embracing who you are. This is especially true in terms of sexual orientation and identity. Be proud of who you are and embrace it wholeheartedly. If you need a little nudge, Lilith will be there to instill the empowerment necessary.

I wish you all the most magically delicious Valentine’s Day and encourage you to work with Lilith to ignite the fire of passion within. Whether you are single or taken, enjoy and embrace this sexy time of year. You deserve it and are worth it!

Bio: Michael Herkes has been a solitary Witch for 18 years. Working exclusively with the goddess Lilith, Michael walks a magical path established through the Great Lilithian Arcane Mysteries. His debut book titled THE GLAM WITCH explores his personal practice of Lilith based witchcraft and will be released later this year. Aside from writing with Fire and Lux, Michael is a regular contributor to Witch Way Magazine and weaves his web of witchery in Chicago, IL. For more information on Michael, Lilith, and to pre-order his book visit his website www.theglamwitch.com